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Tuesday, April 3, 2012

P90X: "Controlling Your Fate" Day 60 of 90


The great thing about P90X is the level of control you get over your physical condition.

Life comes at you.  

'Life' is simply a series of events and interactions that you have to deal with on a daily basis.  How you handle those things, and how well you prepare for them, will ultimately determine your state of mind (from happiness to fear) and the outcome (success or failure).  The best way to ensure that you are happy and successful is to have a game plan on how you are going to control the situations you are faced with, or how to avoid them successfully.

No one likes to avoid all the confrontations we will face in life.  It feels a bit cowardly.  If you go through life never learning how to control certain situations, you are at the mercy of those situations.  Every situation has the ability to get out of hand and go bad.  Some things can go very bad.  Depending on the situation, and the possibility/severity of the bad outcome, you could run the gamut of emotions from nervous, to depressed, to outright fear.  This is the result of feeling like you cannot control the outcome.

On the other end of the scale, if you feel like you can control a situation, depending on the possibility/severity of a bad outcome, you could experience emotions from happy, to strong,  If you are going to experience a bad situation,  a physical confrontation for example, and you are strong physically, maybe you are a big person, or maybe you have a skill at fighting or self defense, then you do not feel much fear about the situation.  Depending on the possible severity of the outcome, you could feel very strong about facing the situation.  If you think your outcome will be victorious because your skill to control is that well developed, then you feel very strong.  Your skills allow you to control the outcome to such a degree that it offsets a lot of the fear tied to it.

All situations in life, be they expected or unexpected, will cause you stress and duress if you are not capable of handling/controlling them.

There are three primary types of control. 

There is physical control.  As mentioned previously, it is the ability to take care of oneself through either peak physical condition or defense.  It could be anything from being physically fit enough that you can handle physically stressful events to being able to defend yourself with brute force. 

There is social or behavioral control.  Maybe you have the ability to control social situations because you have learned how to influence people in positive and negative ways.  Being able to take the temperature of a room emotionally and navigate those situations is a skill.  It is learned over time.  Those who appear to have it naturally were not born with it.  It was simply learned at a younger age than it was for most.

There is intellectual control.  Many outcomes will be determined by how well you prepare intellectually to meet a certain situation.  Think about a crucial test or exam that carries the weight of 50% of your overall grade.  That one exam will determine whether you pass or fail, regardless of the body of work you have done up to that point.  That can be very stressful to think about.  But, if you prepare for that by studying and working, the more confident you feel that it will all be fine.

The times in your life when you feel the most successful will be those times that a difficult event was expected and you came out of it victorious.  Those times will be preceded by a level of preparation that allowed you to control the outcome.  It is in those moments that you realize that your success and the resulting happiness was all due to you and your hard work.

When you fail to do the work and prepare for situations, you feel like you ‘dodged a bullet.’  We’ve all had those situations too.  Something happens we either expected and didn’t prepare for or, worse, something happens unexpectedly and we were not prepared.  If it comes out okay, we were lucky.  When we think about the possibility of that happening again, we are nervous and fearful.

I believe that our happiness and success in life comes from our preparation and readiness for the situations we will face.

As I begin to turn the corner to ‘being old’, the possibility of debilitating illnesses, be they permanent injury, cancer, or simple ‘rust’, can rob me of the Quality of Life that I would ideally like to experience.  P90X has helped me handle the physical events that I feel could be out there facing me.  Physical condition is probably the biggest issue humans face as they get older.  As you age, you begin to realize that you may be as smart as you are ever going to be.  You may continue to learn, but you pretty much ‘are what you are.’  You also have developed social skills that are either working or not.  You can change them late in the game, but it isn’t easy because many have already been exposed to you and expect you to behave in certain ways.

The one thing you can change with effectiveness and result is your physical condition.  That one thing is completely in your hands and is pretty much resistant to what others may think or feel about it.  When you improve that one area of your life, you feel measurably more strong and confident because you are not worried about physically debilitating events.  You also are much better playing the intellectual and behavioral game because the physical worries are an afterthought.

P90X has given me strength in many ways physically, but has also been a tremendous benefit to my ability to focus on and control other areas of my life.

It will do the same for you.   

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