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This blog is about my battle with weight and the journey that ensued.

Along the way are some not so subtle side tales but, for the most part, it is in chronological order. If you want the story from the beginning, start on March 24, 2009 at "The Tipping Point", and read your way to today. Thanks and best of luck on your journey.


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Wednesday, May 9, 2012

MetaMorpheSys: Paying It Forward

First and foremost, I want to thank all of you who have followed my journey to this point.  You have sent me congratulations, encouraged me to keep going, and paid me many compliments.  You have truly been the fuel that I relied on to help push me over the tough obstacles.  Thanks very much from the bottom of my heart.

Along the way, many of you have made comments like, “I need to do something too,” or “I wish I could do what you did.”  Many of you also communicated to me that I had inspired you.

It is with this in mind that I have decided to try my hand at becoming an Independent Beachbody Coach.  I think it is time for me to truly try to help others achieve some of the results that I have seen. 

I particularly want to reach those in their 30’s, 40’s and 50’s.  We are going to live longer than any generation before us.  At forty, none of us should be looking in the mirror at a body that cannot take another 30-40 years.  We should be living to about seventy-five or eighty years old.  We all have ancestry that lived lives of working people.  My grandmother was brought up on a farm in Canada.  Physical work was done every day.  It is something she and her sister, my aunt, carried with them into their 90’s.  It’s what sustained them. 

We do not live that way anymore.  As a result, 65% of us are overweight.  30% are obese.  By 2030, the government is estimating that 11% of us will be “Severely Overweight.”  That new category is for those who will be 100 lbs or more overweight.  One Hundred Pounds.  There are super models that weigh one hundred pounds.  While I wouldn’t mind having one with me all the time, the thought of having to carry her around all day long makes me cringe.  That’s a joke but I think you get my point.

I believe we need to proactively set ourselves up to have the best physical machine possible so that we can ‘go the distance’ and enjoy all the years of our lives and have them be truly ‘quality years’.

I am going to put together my very first Challenge Group.  The idea of this group is to provide a place and time for a team of us to set some health and fitness goals and try, ourselves, to make the changes we want, know, or simply dream, of making.  It is also a way for you all to see the different Beachbody programs at work and hear first-hand from some people actually doing them.  Most of us will be doing them for the first time.  That’s important.  You really need to know how YOU would fare the first time out.

The Challenge Group will run from June 1st to July 30th.  Sixty days.  Your program doesn’t have to be that long.  In fact, I have chosen three programs that I can recommend.  Each of them varies in the total time commitment, the time you need each day and the degree of difficulty.  The program you are on is not nearly as important as making sure you do it as often as you can (hopefully as set out in the program), exert yourself as much as you can while doing it, and watch what you eat.

It is my goal to make this first Challenge Group a stepping stone to the same good exercise and nutrition that I have built over the last four years.  I also think it is a great place to introduce better eating habits and pick up some knowledge on exercise, nutrition and motivation.

The changes I have made in my life, and I have said this over and over, are not miraculous.  I am not special.  I am no different than you.  Everything that I have done can be replicated by you.

I am not asking you to try P90X or Insanity first.  For many that is a daunting task.  You don’t make the changes we need to make by running a marathon.

Every change starts with one step.  When I first started losing my weight four years ago, I walked.  Every day I put aside 40 minutes and walked as fast as my body would allow.  It didn’t allow much.  The goal was to exert myself and see some sweat.  At some point, I jogged from telephone pole to telephone pole.  Then I jogged the whole time.  Then I ran harder.  Later on, I started to do pushups and situps, to get back the muscled strength that had gone away with the dieting and running.  Then I took on P90X.

It is for this reason that I am proposing three ways to be in this group, in reverse order.

1) Insanity.  If you are in shape and want a real challenge, this one is for you.  It is difficult and lasts 60 days (6 days per week with one off-day).  This is the one I will be doing.  As your leader, I really should be setting the example.

2) Slim in 6.  This is a program for beginners that, in 6 weeks, will get you in peak shape.  It will also, if you eat right, have you looking much better by your 4th of July outings.  It is 6 weeks and starts at 25 minutes per day.  By week 6, you are at about 45 minutes per day, but don’t worry, you will be ready for it.

3) Your own program.  Some of you are going to a gym and/or working with a trainer.  If it is working, stick with it.  Get in the Challenge Group, log your goals and progress, and see other’s in action.  You might even decide, after seeing how everyone is doing, that you want to push yourself to try P90X or Insanity.  You might even try some other products like the Ultimate Reset (a 21 Day Detox and Cleanse that will reset your body for optimal performance and weight-loss) or Shakeology (a patent-pending meal replacement drink that will enhance your ability to exercise and complement your weight loss goals in your existing workout).

This can be done in 60 days and, for many of you, the progress and changes you see will be the first steps to understanding how you can positively affect the way you live the rest of your life.

I hope many of you will join me.

You cheered me on.  Now it is time for me to see if I can do the same for you.  Let me pay it forward.

Sixty days is not long.  I have been maintaining my fitness and weight for four years.  My diet in 2008 lasted about four months.  P90X lasted 90 days.  Insanity is 60 days.  Routines are from 30 minutes to an hour.  One step at a time.

I hope you join the Group and let us cheer you on.  Thanks again.  For everything.

Saturday, May 5, 2012

P90X: Day 90 Pictures and Results

Infomercials are a dime a dozen.  The question is, do they work?  I think it always helps if you can see someone you know go through it and see if it did.

I have lost about 10 lbs in the 90 days but have definitely added muscle and gotten more lean.  I am also in very good physical condition.  I am in Medium sized shirts and size 34 waist pants for the first time since High School.  The pictures are in...judge for yourself.








P90X: "Coaching: Engaging the Player" Day 91 of 90

In my experience, a Coach is only as good as his/her ability to share and teach the player.  In sharing and teaching anything, to anybody, you have to have the ability to ENGAGE.  Have you ever heard someone say about someone else, "They're just so engaging!"  Someone engaging actually makes you feel compelled to be in their circle.  Not to just listen to the engaging person, but to also participate.  That's what engaging means...it means that that person makes you feel like you are a part of driving something, not just a 'passenger on the bus.'

How do people who are 'engaging' accomplish this or become that way?

There are characteristics of these people that you either already possess or can work on building.

The first is that an engaging person projects themselves visually.  They are dramatic, sometimes 'over the top.'  They use a lot of body language to make the space they are in look bigger than life.  They fill a room when they enter it.  When they are expressing themselves they do it with a passion that is outwardly perceived.  Think about people you feel compelled to listen to...you will find they have this ability to translate visually.  Even when you talk to an engaging person over the phone, most times, you can feel that emotion.

The second thing an engaging person possesses is a 'hook.'  An engaging person, in your eyes, will have something you want...even if you don't realize at the time that you want it!  Be it a product, idea or emotion, the engaging person has it and you either want it or want more of it.  An engaging person may have a new way of thinking of an old concept.  It may be new facts or ideas.  It may be something that is completely old, but this person found a new way to wrap it so it feels new...and you want to see it again.  Maybe what they have will help you in business.  Maybe it will help you personally.  Maybe they are just really happy and 'up' right now and you want THAT.  If only because it will just make you feel better for a moment.  An engaging person has a 'hook' that draws others.

The third thing an engaging person has is 'room.'  They always have room for you...no matter how many of YOU there are.  They ask questions and listen.  They let you participate.  They let you nibble on the 'hook.'  With an engaging person, it's not a manipulation or sale.  They are sincere.  You can feel that they care deeply about their cause and how it will affect you.  They want to hear your story too.  Again...they LISTEN patiently and sincerely.  The relationship an engaging person forms is a dance, not a direction.

The last thing an engaging person has is a great sense of self-awareness.  They are humble enough to know that they don't know everything.  They also have a sense of humor.  They don't take themselves and everything so seriously that becoming involved with them is a life or death proposition.  They know that life is too short to not have fun doing what you love...but that everyone may not love the same things.  They have respect for you.

As a Coach...as a leader...these things will help you become a person who draws others in.  When you have people's willing attention, you are best positioned to be influential.

If you do not have these qualities, they are things you can learn, improve, and practice.

Many are not comfortable in front of people.  That hurts your ability to project and show passion.  A player can't see it if you can't show it.  There are many ways to get out of this shell.  Toastmasters is a great group that encourages you to get in front of the room.

Finding your 'hook' can be a challenge.  You need to really understand what it is you are trying to project and truly understand it's value or potential value to your audience.  Is it really something of value or something you WISH they valued?  Ask yourself that question and be honest.

Do you leave 'room' for your audience?  Always keep a list of no fewer than twenty engaging questions for the audience.  Some people are habitually good at this and do it reflexively.  If you are not a natural at this, get index cards, write the questions down and rehearse them until you know them by heart and can ask them with sincerity.  Listen acutely.  Don't just blink and nod.  Listen with real concern.  If the 'hook' is of real value, this should not be that hard, but it does take practice.

Remember to keep it loose.  Not everyone feels the same way about the 'hook.'  Let them take their time to get to it, don't just grab the damn fish and slap the hook in it's mouth.  Not nice.  Not engaging.  It's more like a trap.

Being able to 'engage' a player is vital to being a good or great coach.  If the player is not ready or willing to really take your guidance...your coaching may be only minimally effective if not simply ineffective.

Okay, time to work out!  I am putting in an extra two weeks of P90X.

Have a great weekend, GET UP, and JUST DO IT!

My resources this week for my Coaching blog were:

Mindset, by Carol Dweck Ph.D.

The Power of Persuasion, by Robert Levine

Influence Without Authority, by Allan Cohen and David Bradford

The Handbook of Coaching, by Frederick Hudson

Coach Anyone About Anything, by Germaine Porche and Jed Niederer (this one was sourced the most)